I think you answered your question in that post. Take it from someone who started a team from scratch, you have to learn how to be flexible. You seem to have a lot of ideas and the more you fixate on what YOU want rather than what the team wants, you will eventually lose them. Ultimately, you started the team so people will naturally defer to your direction. You will need help because it helps you grow as a leader - leaders know when to be a follower and when to truly lead. With that said, it really is a compromise between democracy and dictatorship - for the most part you will be looked at to lead but there are times you will need to take a back seat because people will have better or more popular ideas. When you start acting like a true dictator you're likely to lose dancers rather than have them fall in line. Remember, this stuff is optional so there is always the out to quit the team without any issue.

Don't try to do everything yourself.  It works best if you delegate things off to people and just kind of watch over to make sure everything gets done.  This also gives your team members a sense of ownership and makes sure there's a certain level of accountability amongst all teammates.